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JämeräpartainenInsinööri:

--- Lainaus käyttäjältä: AnnaB - Heinäkuu 10, 2025, 21:34:53 ---I don't know about others but I usually give my email/Whatsapp details and ask to continue the conversation there when someone contacts me in private messages.

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I don't know if I qualify as one of the others  ;D, but the same holds true for me.

Also, it is possible to send direct mail to those members (without going through the "private" messages) who have enabled mail as a contact form.

JohnnyDick:

--- Lainaus käyttäjältä: XGT90 - Heinäkuu 10, 2025, 21:10:22 ---@JohnnyDick, to be honest I've always preferred Finnish women. Certainly not all. The reasons can qualify for a masters dissertation  :). Would you mind to expound on the meaning of "cultured communication"?

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Well for me that's obvious how to behave but from what i learned there is a really big group of men who cannot treat a sexworker like a person. Be nice and respectful and use full sentences. Some girls make it obvious that treating them like a peace of meat is not well received. "Wanna fuck you" or god forbid sending them dick pick is not a good conversation starter for most of them.

Kalamaja:
The girls usually mention in their ads if they speak English and if they receive non-Finnish customers and sometimes a part of an ad is written in English. It the ad is only in Finnish, then it usually means they might not feel comfortable of receiving foreigners / non-Finnish speakers as customers.

But as always, there's no shame in asking.

AnnaVonB:
Sometimes I have "also in English" on my ad, but mostly I don't because I'm sic of the "hi" messages from men who don't know how to write complete sentences in English. Usually they only know how to haggle. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who does that.

Sointu Sulotar BBW:
XGT90, I'm sorry to hear about your experiences being often ignored or faced elusived interaction by service providers. It must feel unfair and hurtful.

Naturally I can speak from only my point of view, but I try to shed a little more lights on this matter.

We're working here in a field where risk management is crucial from service providers' point of view. Every time meeting a new client various risks are taken, from the most obvious ones to experiencing mutual discomfort and akwardness.

To make sure that the encounters are as comfortable and pleasure for both parties as possible, the mutual interaction must work. Here comes the language barrier, that can be a deal breaker. I follow the same principle as AnnaB,  I take bookings with dates who speak good English or fluent Finnish. This doesn't mean I'd rank potential dates by their language skills or would like to ignore someone because of their cultural background. The key element is to make sure that potential dates and I understand each other easily.

The encounters we here refer to are intimate and sensitive, and to build up a comfortable atmosphere in a very short period of time the communication must work. This is both for my own safety, I need to be able to trust that my wishes and personal boundaries are respected what means they need to be fully understood. And this is also for the clients' pleasure, I need to be aware of their do's and don'ts in able to provide as pleasurable encounter as possible.

The principle of fluent communication concerns also Finnish speakers. As AnnaB described "hi u free" kind of guys are the type that get usually ignored. That kind of messaging isn't something I would consider satisfying level of communication, what is crucial for an enjoyable encounter. You wouldn't believe how typical "how much?", "free tonight" type of messages are.

I wish you'll find service providers with whom it's easy to communicate with, and who can offer everything you're looking for.

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